FOR A WONDERFUL LESSON ABOUT THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX
JUST SAYING 'HELLO' CAN FEEL REALLY GOOD
How many times have we walked by someone
on the street or in a hallway
and instead of saying hello
we pretend we don't see them?
The truth is that all of us,
deep down inside,
have a need to be seen,
acknowledged and appreciated.
We are on a spiritual journey
that can at times be very lonely.
And one of the simplest
and most effective ways
to help our fellow traveler
is to smile and say hello.
-Ron Atchison-
-Ron Atchison-
PERSISTENCE = TRUE GRIT
PERSISTENCE
To continue steadily and firmly in the pursuit of any course commenced;
To continue steadily and firmly in the pursuit of any course commenced;
to continue in the face of some amount of opposition; to persevere; to endure…
Nothing in the world
Can take the place of Persistence.
Talent will not;
Nothing is more commonplace
Than unsuccessful men (and women) with talent.
Genius will not;
Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education alone will not;
The world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence
And
Determination
Alone are omnipotent.
-Calvin Coolidge-
Nothing in the world
Can take the place of Persistence.
Talent will not;
Nothing is more commonplace
Than unsuccessful men (and women) with talent.
Genius will not;
Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education alone will not;
The world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence
And
Determination
Alone are omnipotent.
-Calvin Coolidge-
BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE
“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards:
They try to have more things,
Or more money,
In order to do more of what they want
So that they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are,
Then,
Do what you need to do,
In order to have what you want.”
-Margaret Young-
LIVING A HAPPIER LIFE
LIVING A HAPPIER LIFEWhere do we start if we want to be happier?
By: ELISA LEVY
Abraham Lincoln once said of happiness:
“Most folks are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
Without realizing it, we make up our minds every day and every minute of our lives about how happy we want to feel. If we don’t make a decision and consider our happiness, we still are making a choice. That choice is to give our power to external events and people who determine how we feel.
If someone cuts us off in traffic, we are unhappy; if they give us a surprise gift, we feel good. We react, but we don’t ultimately have control. The real challenge, and one well worth pursuing, is to use our own power to be happy. While that isn’t necessarily easy, it is entirely possible.
Sigmund Freud believed that human behavior is based on the desire for two things: to seek pleasure and avoid pain. The irony is that in our attempts to seek pleasure externally, in the accumulation of things, the approval of others and in our status, we often lose the joy we were seeking in the first place.
The hardest and least traveled road is the one inward, and it is the only one that leads to happiness. If you want to increase your level of happiness (and who doesn’t?) start by considering three ideas:
1. Happiness is a choice. As Lincoln said, we need to make up our minds to be happy before it can happen. Many of us get stuck in negative emotions. We get addicted to depression and anxiety, and blame others for it. Over time, these thoughts and feelings become comfortable and habitual. The first step to change is a decision.
Think of it like a decision to get in shape. Before you can start eating healthy and getting involved in a regular exercise regime you need to make a decision and a commitment to your happiness.
There is a simply way to practice choosing happiness. Every morning when you wake up, put your feet on the floor and decide to feel good. It’s really that simple. It may seem fake or silly at first, but do it anyway. It takes all of two seconds, and it can’t hurt. Making it work for you depends on the next point.
2. Happiness is a habit. If you wanted to get better at golf, how would you do it? You probably wouldn’t play once every few weeks and hope your game improves. If you really wanted to get better at it, you would practice as often as you could. You might talk to good golfers and read books about golf. To get really good, you would have to do it habitually. Repetition is the key to getting better at anything – including your happiness.
Studies show that it takes 21 days to turn any new behavior into a habit. At the very least, try making a decision to feel good every day for three weeks. Do that, and you’ll be off to a good start, but there is more you can do.
3. Happiness is a combination of pleasure and meaning. One of Harvard University’s most popular courses is a class on happiness, taught by Professor Tal Ben-Shahar. One of Ben-Shahar’s basic tenets in the class is to encourage his students to strive for activities in work and personal life that bring physical and emotional pleasure, but also have a sense of purpose and are rooted in long-term goals. The balance between the two is key to our deeper sense of contentment with our lives.
The feeling of being happy may be different for each of us, but one thing is for sure: WE KNOW IT WHEN WE FEEL IT…”
The good news is that we can choose how much of it we want. The power to do that rests only in our hands. The next three columns in this series will give you specific tips and tools to practice to increase your level of joy. Reading them, however, isn’t enough; DOING THEM – EVERY DAY – IS WHAT WILL MAKE IT WORK FOR YOU IN YOUR LIFE.
If someone cuts us off in traffic, we are unhappy; if they give us a surprise gift, we feel good. We react, but we don’t ultimately have control. The real challenge, and one well worth pursuing, is to use our own power to be happy. While that isn’t necessarily easy, it is entirely possible.
Sigmund Freud believed that human behavior is based on the desire for two things: to seek pleasure and avoid pain. The irony is that in our attempts to seek pleasure externally, in the accumulation of things, the approval of others and in our status, we often lose the joy we were seeking in the first place.
The hardest and least traveled road is the one inward, and it is the only one that leads to happiness. If you want to increase your level of happiness (and who doesn’t?) start by considering three ideas:
1. Happiness is a choice. As Lincoln said, we need to make up our minds to be happy before it can happen. Many of us get stuck in negative emotions. We get addicted to depression and anxiety, and blame others for it. Over time, these thoughts and feelings become comfortable and habitual. The first step to change is a decision.
Think of it like a decision to get in shape. Before you can start eating healthy and getting involved in a regular exercise regime you need to make a decision and a commitment to your happiness.
There is a simply way to practice choosing happiness. Every morning when you wake up, put your feet on the floor and decide to feel good. It’s really that simple. It may seem fake or silly at first, but do it anyway. It takes all of two seconds, and it can’t hurt. Making it work for you depends on the next point.
2. Happiness is a habit. If you wanted to get better at golf, how would you do it? You probably wouldn’t play once every few weeks and hope your game improves. If you really wanted to get better at it, you would practice as often as you could. You might talk to good golfers and read books about golf. To get really good, you would have to do it habitually. Repetition is the key to getting better at anything – including your happiness.
Studies show that it takes 21 days to turn any new behavior into a habit. At the very least, try making a decision to feel good every day for three weeks. Do that, and you’ll be off to a good start, but there is more you can do.
3. Happiness is a combination of pleasure and meaning. One of Harvard University’s most popular courses is a class on happiness, taught by Professor Tal Ben-Shahar. One of Ben-Shahar’s basic tenets in the class is to encourage his students to strive for activities in work and personal life that bring physical and emotional pleasure, but also have a sense of purpose and are rooted in long-term goals. The balance between the two is key to our deeper sense of contentment with our lives.
The feeling of being happy may be different for each of us, but one thing is for sure: WE KNOW IT WHEN WE FEEL IT…”
The good news is that we can choose how much of it we want. The power to do that rests only in our hands. The next three columns in this series will give you specific tips and tools to practice to increase your level of joy. Reading them, however, isn’t enough; DOING THEM – EVERY DAY – IS WHAT WILL MAKE IT WORK FOR YOU IN YOUR LIFE.
ABOUT ELISA LEVY
Elisa Levy is a Master Muse. She conducts seminars on conflict resolution and anger management. For more information, you can contact her at 305.296.5437 or visit http://www.elisalevy.com/. MUSEologies extends a THANK YOU to Elisa for granting permission to reprint this article.
YEARNING
Hand Holding Globe Artist: Paul KatzYEARNING
“When we cut through the superficial differences between us, the meaningless variations in geography, skin color, cultural traditions and the specific words by which we worship the God of our choice, we citizens of this Earth…are all the same at our core.
We yearn to love and be loved.
We yearn to hear that we’re on the right path,
Or how to find our way back to it if we feel we’ve wandered off.
We yearn to be stronger, wiser, healthier,
We yearn to love and be loved.
We yearn to hear that we’re on the right path,
Or how to find our way back to it if we feel we’ve wandered off.
We yearn to be stronger, wiser, healthier,
More courageous and less afraid.
We yearn to understand what confuses and debilitates us.
We yearn to experience our connection to our Creator,
And our own eternal Spirits,
Rather than just hope against hope that they exist.
We yearn to know beyond all doubt that there’s more than this,
That we’re more than this, and that,
For ourselves and for everyone we’ve ever loved,
There really is no end.
We yearn for peace of mind,
And access to the ultimate peace our Spirits possess
Through our divine birthright.”
SYLVIA BROWNE
PSYCHIC
We yearn to understand what confuses and debilitates us.
We yearn to experience our connection to our Creator,
And our own eternal Spirits,
Rather than just hope against hope that they exist.
We yearn to know beyond all doubt that there’s more than this,
That we’re more than this, and that,
For ourselves and for everyone we’ve ever loved,
There really is no end.
We yearn for peace of mind,
And access to the ultimate peace our Spirits possess
Through our divine birthright.”
SYLVIA BROWNE
PSYCHIC
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